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What KIND of BAIT do you have on your hook?

Coach Clint

By Clint Maki  www.fearlessteamleader.com

 OK, so you are selling yourself every day, but is anyone really buying it? It’s a very important question in human relationships.

 There is an old country song that goes something like this:

             You better take a good look

            What kind of bait you got on your hook?

 I had reached a point in my life where I had many friends, some good success and was having fun. Pretty well pleased with me, indeed and then one day I received a revelation. I was roundly and brutally criticized by someone I had met only moments prior at a club event. I was mad, confused and frankly very embarrassed. What she told me was that there was a certain part of my personality which offended her and almost everyone around me. “Could it be true? Have I been offending people all these years and no one told me?” As it turns out, yes, I had been repelling people and creating negativity where it didn’t belong for over three decades. Either no one told me or I would not listen and it didn’t matter which.

 I sat down with a trusted advisor and ask for his opinion. Even he was reluctant to tell me that people saw me in a completely different way than I saw myself. There is a word for it. It’s called a Johari window. It’s that part of all of us that is known to others, but blind to ourselves. It’s an irony only revealed by those who love you enough to tell you the truth if you will listen.

 Here is what I gleaned from this experience: If you are working to reinvent yourself or build a business (especially in a Network Marketing business) then you may want to pay close attention to this advice.

 Since my meeting with my mentor and reading several books, journaling and careful prayer I can tell you now that the problem I faced was having a profound effect on me and my health as well. Now that people are not nearly as mad at me and actually enjoy my company a lot more, I find life a lot easier: funny how that works. I sleep better at night. In social situations I am no longer tense. I can walk away from meeting new people with a sense that I may have added value and happiness to their time with me

 Have you ever sat down and written a list of personality traits you carry around with you? All of the good, the bad and the just plain ugly: your habits that help and the ones that hurt you are part of your life experience. They either contribute to your happiness or they take away from it. In my case, I was careening through life unaware that I was offensive to many people every day. I had no idea that people talked about me behind my back, but once I knew about it I was able to face it and fix it. I still struggle with it, but it’s mine, I own it and now I am the master of that habit and able to draw a short leash on it when I see it taking control again.

I encourage you to do the same thing. And then call your own bluff, so to speak. Face it and fix it.

 So, I return to the question I posed earlier. What kind of bait do you have on your hook? What are you offering to people with respect to your personality and how does it affect your ability to form relationships with them? When it comes to relationships, I like the advice Larry Wingett gives: “It’s your own Damn fault”. If people aren’t buying what you are selling, it’s your fault. Check the bait on your hook. Change it if you need to and let me know how it works out for you.

 Clint Maki is a Social Media Marketing Professional

Clint Specializes in promoting YOUR business to the planet.

Contact him at Infinite Opportunities Inc   infiniteoppinc@gmail.com

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